Chances are, you know somebody that just seems to always be sad, gloomy, or even angry. It may seem to you that they don’t want to be part of something, and they want to be left alone, but your wrong. They don’t want to be sad, gloomy or angry, those are by products of loneliness. They really want to say they are part of a group, kin, or family. They want to go out to the movies with friends, and they want to have “inside jokes”. But they never get the chance, because no one ever gives it to them.
And if you have given a lonely person a chance, understand that they might not know how to react to that chance. It’s like a man, coming out of the cave after years of living in the dark, it takes time to adjust to the brightness, or happiness. So give them more than one chance to join in on your plans, give them many. Eventually, they will learn, and develop into a person who is certainly, not lonely.
And if they don’t adjust to the kind acts, use force. Use the power of touch to bring out the sense of belonging, deep inside their heart. Because a touch is the most powerful cure to a lonely persons life. It shows that you aren’t scared, or faking the emotions. It shows that you care, and realize that they are human. It could be a pat on the back, a handshake, a high five, or even a peck. It doesn’t matter, any touch on a person, goes much deeper than their skin anyway.
And if that doesn’t work, you may want to give up, go home, call it quits, but you can’t, you have dug yourself in too deep. If opportunity and touch don’t work, there is something much deeper at hand. There is sorrow embedded into that person’s body, that is just waiting to be released in the form of discussion. Yes, the lonely do talk, and they will talk if you use the power of touch. When they start to open up, hold their hand, and say it’s ok. Say that you want to hear their sorrows, and the tales of their messed up life. They will tell you, and you will listen.
There are too many lonely people, don’t exclude them, include them. Don’t leave anyone alone, because one day, when you may be lonely, you would want someone to touch your heart.
